A gentle note...

Just a gentle note to all those who seek to be comforters in a time of mourning.

Two things you should always avoid saying.

First never say "It was God's will..." because we simply don't know that with any specificity.

Second avoid saying "It's a blessing..." because it never is. Death is grotesque even at its best and all those who experience it would much rather trade thier "blessing" for whatever your "blessing" is any time.

Now, that being said all of us are grateful for the prayers and letters and calls and emails that have come to us in this time. We literally feel a certain peace and strength in this time because of it. We are humbled, as well, by the outpouring of love and affection for Paul. Our loss is terrible but these things are a sweet balm of healing and we thank you.